Bagi sesetengah lelaki, umur 40 menjadi titik tolak kepada perubahan dalam hidup. Kalau ia terus dengan kehidupan yang melalaikan dan memiliki tabiat tertentu yang tidak baik, maka lazimnya ia akan teruskan cara hidup yang demikian melainkan ia cepat sedar dan kembali ke pangkal jalan. Manakala bagi sesetengah lelaki pula, sekitar umur 40 ialah tempoh waktu ‘miang’ dan ‘darah muda’ kembali semula. Sejauhmanakah kebenarannya?
Bagi sesetengah orang perempuan, umur 40 adalah suatu yang menakutkan. Kata orang, perempuan kalau
umur 20 maknanya mengancam
umur 30 maknanya macam-macam
umur 40 maknanya diancam
umur 50 maknanya terancam
umur 60 maknanya dah tak boleh cam
Izinkan saya menulis dalam bahasa Inggeris pula
Well, some of us never expected “something” strange will happen…after 10-20 years of marriage….that may stir the relationship of a “loving” couple…a relationship that is based on love (once). We are not exposed to this phenomena. We didn’t know about it until we go through our marriage and through an age period of 35 – 45 years old
Some observations that we could see in the phenomena at 40 (35-45 yrs old) among men are:
1. sexual desire is increasing, “miang muda datang balik”
2. hormone is increasing too
3. looking for different “taste” if routine of life looks the same over the years and “nothing” new or “refreshing” in the relationship
4. “life starts at 40 again”
5. “man is like coconut milk; the older he goes, the thicker his macho is”
6. man thinks that his partner, who looks the “same” in terms of beauty, shape, attitude, care more of the children, house and career…which will take away some quality time that may contribute to “escapism” among men
Among women, we maty find that they:
1. care less about beauty
2. care less about shape
3. take for granted that her man is satisfied enough after years of romance
4. take for granted that her man is supposed to be a responsbile man, as a father, a hubby, …. by the age of 40
5. routine of life is thought to be stable and balance, nothing to worry….
6. his “loyalty” is there already
7. at about 40, man should think of how be more devoted to God
In many cases, these “hopes’ or “perceptions” or “expectations” are not true or may not necessarily be true.
Few things to do by the couple
• get in shape
• take care of you beauty
• change environment
• change setting for the house quarterly
• renew bedroom setting
• recreation once a month (stay outside)
• eating out with family once, candle light, dating again
• see album of pictures together, talk about the past once a while
• always celebrate important dates
• change setting for love making
• exchange presents
• visit memorable places where love started to spark in life between you and him
• put on different sexy dresses occasionally
• diversify ways to seduce him
• work together on a series of projects
• hugs and kisses everyday in the morning and evening
• always try to accompany him whenever is possible
• say “love u” at the end of every telephone conversation
• say “miss u” when don’t meet more than a day
• say the kid misses u when he is not home more than a day, make up stories…that the kid says papa…pointing finger at his picture
